It has been four months since Sara and Adam Desilva first arrived at Ronald McDonald House Southern Alberta. Like many families who stay at the House, the Desilvas never expected they would need to—no parent ever anticipates their child becoming sick and their world being turned upside down. Yet, for Sara and Adam, needing RMH came as an even bigger shock than for most. That’s because up until just four months ago, they didn’t think they’d ever be able to have children.
Sara has polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) and was informed by her doctor at an appointment in early November that becoming pregnant was highly unlikely. Hearing this was devastating for both Sara and Adam who had always wanted to have kids.
“You prepare for something and it just hits you in the gut when you find out it might not be possible,” says Sara.
Unbeknownst to everyone at the time, not only would Sara go on to have a baby, but she was already pregnant! It would be a few weeks until Sara would find out, when, after experiencing severe abdominal pain, she went to the hospital and was informed, much to everyone’s surprise, that not only was she 22 weeks pregnant but she was in labour.
Sara was transferred from Rocky Mountain House by ambulance to Foothills Hospital in Calgary and put on 24-hour bedrest. She remained in labour for the next eight days so her baby could continue growing.
As a premie, Bryson has faced many obstacles but continues to surprise doctors with his remarkable progress. He recently celebrated hitting the five-pound mark and his lungs are getting stronger each week.
“It’s been a battle [but] he’s doing really good,” says Sara.
The Desilvas have managed to remain positive through all of the ups-and-downs—something they believe is due, at least in part, to their unique circumstance.
“It’s been scary and exciting. It’s all emotions thrown together. Especially the first week when we found out I was pregnant. There was laughter, there were tears, there was everything,” says Sara. “Most parents have all this time to prepare and realize, ‘Oh, I’m going to be a parent’. For me and Adam, we’re still like, ‘We’re parents?’”
For the couple of seven years who thought they might never get to have a child of their own, this has been a magical time. When asked what their favourite thing is about being parents so far, Sara answers:
“Just getting to hold him and knowing that I’m a mom. It’s still unbelievable but we’re super happy and just want to get him home.”